THE HOUSEWIFE

Though I dislike staying at home but I don't despise housewives, they are doing a great work that is so tasking and demanding and most times without pay. Taking care of the children, doing house chores, cooking and the rest are no small jobs, that's why I respect them. My mum was a full time housewife before she went into business when we were all grown. I know what being a housewife is like, that's why a lot of them are depressed, especially when not appreciated by their man, they come on social media mostly Facebook to complain about their bad husbands and how these men are spending money on their mistress. Most of them don't have anything doing, their only hope and means of survival is their husband. This is 21st century and things need changes, I wouldn't say leave your children under the care of a stranger but I would want you to be productive, be valuable. While at home watching over your children, you can do something meaningful for your life. You can learn how to read and write, for those who haven't gone to school. You can do business; an online business or any other business at the comfort of your home. Have a bank account mostly savings where you do your savings monthly or weekly. Don't just be a housewife whose only job is to cook and take care of the family while depending so much on a man, be more. If most women were financially capable, some of them won't be managing their bad husbands. Have a savings account for your children. Acquire more skills, read books online to develop yourself, improve on yourself so you won't blame your husband for leaving you to a young girl. Be social, don't shut your door off the world because you are married, people will be of help to you someday. Invest your money, if you are rich enough, acquire a property. Properties are not only for men, you can buy an apartment and put it up for rent, that is still business. If your husband doesn't want you to work, never worry, comply to his rules but make sure you do something for yourself online or offline.

I see a lot of women running after their husband and his mistress, you don't have to do that please, you can't be fighting for a grown up man who wouldn't want to change. Besides, you would be thinking so much and having high blood pressure which is unhealthy. The time you use running after his mistress is enough to build yourself and make it meaningful. You won't be running after his mistress all your life, would you? Use that time to do some productive things. Leave unnecessary talks and gossip to avoid falling into trouble. Take care of your children. Be humble, be polite, respect your husband so he would be good to you. Please don't forget to save, so you have a start up capital for your business or if you wish to leave, you can leave. This days, I don't support abusive marriages, if you live like a slave in your own home, please leave. Marriage is not hell, people make it seems like hell.