We all sing love songs, listen to love songs on radio, watch love movies, yet we don't even know or comprehend what love really is. Now, this is what love and loving entails;
Loving someone goes much deeper than just the physical attraction , it goes beyond lust and infatuation.
When you love someone you get to see past their flaws, weaknesses and shortcomings...
You accept them for who they are and not for what you want them to be or what you can get from them...
Loving someone entails wanting what’s best for them, even if it means having to end the relationship.
Loving someone involves your desire to see them grow and develop...
It involves looking for opportunities to build into each other...
It involves encouraging and motivating them...
It involves inspiring them...
It involves you pushing that person to be a better version of themselves....
It does not involve you trying to make them into someone you want them to be!!!
The truth is, loving someone is an act of selflessness...
It is about being ready to forgive...
It’s about trusting that person just like trusting yourself...
Many people have a record book of all the wrong their partner has done and just waiting for the right time to “let them have it.”
But is that really love?
Loving someone means giving 100 percent of who you are to the relationship, it’s not a 50-50 thing!!
Fifty percent means that you are two halves trying to come together to make a whole.
One hundred percent means that you are two whole people coming together, and when that occurs, magic happens.
Too often, we go into a relationship hoping that the other person would complete us but that’s such an incorrect way of looking at love.
This notion of falling in love seems like such a painful thing you could get hurt, and we usually do get hurt.
First off, love is an inside job, it requires you to first love yourself.
Moving around from relationship to relationship hoping to find that right someone to love you is counter-productive.
And that is why many are frustrated.
Have you ever noticed, that everywhere you go, you take you with you?
Being able to give yourself completely and selflessly to another person involves you loving yourself unconditionally.
You must first decide that you are worth it.
This concept of self love is very important if we are to have meaningful relationships and this goes beyond sexually intimate relationships.
Taking the time to find out who you are, is an important ingredient in avoiding toxic relationships, even a toxic relationship with yourself.
Our relationship with ourselves can be toxic in so many ways;
The types of friends that we keep✅
The way we treat our bodies✅
The way we deal with our finances✅
Many of us are in a spiral when it comes to our finances, we are constantly stressed out and worried. Yet, we do not take the time to understand why we do the things we do.
Loving yourself requires you to take a long hard look at who you are.
It requires you to take the time needed to get into you.
It requires you to be honest with yourself about your habits and that means all your habits, including your intimate relationship habits.
It requires you to go deep into yourself, and that can be an uncomfortable place to be, but it requires you to go there until you come to the realization that you are enough.
And when you do end up loving someone, you would realize it is more about what you can give rather than what you can get.
You would realize that love, brings with it an energy and an excitement about the prospect of growing and developing together.
#omalivingshow
Loving someone goes much deeper than just the physical attraction , it goes beyond lust and infatuation.
When you love someone you get to see past their flaws, weaknesses and shortcomings...
You accept them for who they are and not for what you want them to be or what you can get from them...
Loving someone entails wanting what’s best for them, even if it means having to end the relationship.
Loving someone involves your desire to see them grow and develop...
It involves looking for opportunities to build into each other...
It involves encouraging and motivating them...
It involves inspiring them...
It involves you pushing that person to be a better version of themselves....
It does not involve you trying to make them into someone you want them to be!!!
The truth is, loving someone is an act of selflessness...
It is about being ready to forgive...
It’s about trusting that person just like trusting yourself...
Many people have a record book of all the wrong their partner has done and just waiting for the right time to “let them have it.”
But is that really love?
Loving someone means giving 100 percent of who you are to the relationship, it’s not a 50-50 thing!!
Fifty percent means that you are two halves trying to come together to make a whole.
One hundred percent means that you are two whole people coming together, and when that occurs, magic happens.
Too often, we go into a relationship hoping that the other person would complete us but that’s such an incorrect way of looking at love.
This notion of falling in love seems like such a painful thing you could get hurt, and we usually do get hurt.
First off, love is an inside job, it requires you to first love yourself.
Moving around from relationship to relationship hoping to find that right someone to love you is counter-productive.
And that is why many are frustrated.
Have you ever noticed, that everywhere you go, you take you with you?
Being able to give yourself completely and selflessly to another person involves you loving yourself unconditionally.
You must first decide that you are worth it.
This concept of self love is very important if we are to have meaningful relationships and this goes beyond sexually intimate relationships.
Taking the time to find out who you are, is an important ingredient in avoiding toxic relationships, even a toxic relationship with yourself.
Our relationship with ourselves can be toxic in so many ways;
The types of friends that we keep✅
The way we treat our bodies✅
The way we deal with our finances✅
Many of us are in a spiral when it comes to our finances, we are constantly stressed out and worried. Yet, we do not take the time to understand why we do the things we do.
Loving yourself requires you to take a long hard look at who you are.
It requires you to take the time needed to get into you.
It requires you to be honest with yourself about your habits and that means all your habits, including your intimate relationship habits.
It requires you to go deep into yourself, and that can be an uncomfortable place to be, but it requires you to go there until you come to the realization that you are enough.
And when you do end up loving someone, you would realize it is more about what you can give rather than what you can get.
You would realize that love, brings with it an energy and an excitement about the prospect of growing and developing together.
#omalivingshow
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