Ma Gloria: Albert, you still don't want to make me a Grandmother up till now, but why?
Albert: I am not ready, mother
Ma Gloria: Okay, I will get you a sweet angel, you marry her and make me a Grandmother soon, alright?
Albert: But mother, I don't wish to have children.
Ma Gloria: You what!
Exclaiming with all degree of furiousness and surprise.
Ma Gloria: You must be possessed by a wicked demon and tomorrow, we will meet a Pastor to cast out the demon from you and you will be totally free for marriage and in giving me my Grandchildren.
Albert: Silence!
Most people don't know this, marriage isn't for everyone, parenting isn't for everyone too. We can all be called fathers and mothers but not everyone knows how to take proper care of children. I know that is what the society expects from us but it isn't for everyone. The society expects a young girl to marry, do a glittering wedding that is the talk of town and give birth to children in a loving family. I know they are no perfect marriages, but most people will be horrible in it. It is really a huge task birthing and taking care of children. Most families and marriages are not rosy as they claim to be in public eyes. It is always some sort of staying in a marriage because of children and having to endure shit from a husband for a lifetime. Why enduring? Why staying for the children, rather than staying for the man who took you to the altar? You may say divorce and broken home is bad but staying in a marriage devoid of love, happiness, peace, joy, companionship and broken relationships in a home is the worst.
A lot of parents birth children, they cannot cater for, they can't give them love hence making them vulnerable and leaving them at the mercy of a total stranger. A child from a dysfunctional family or home will find it difficult to birth children without abusing them, except with the help of a therapist. Most children have gone through a lot and the last thing on their minds is to be a mother or a father. They won't be good at it and if forced, it makes matters worst. I remember when I needed love desperately, I would go from place to place looking for solace, happiness, friendship, love and a companion which I never got in my home, through my search for these, people took advantage of me, especially when they knew my parents didn't really care. People used the story I told them against me. I opened my heart to people but I wasn't really accepted. I was truthful, I was honest yet people never wanted to hear my truth. They never really cared. People were after the benefits they get from me rather than the pains I went through. That is why I made a write up once saying human beings are self-centered and selfish in nature. People who helped me were but a few. Just a few in the midst of many. I never owed anyone anything anyway. I didn't expect much from them too.
I gradually became a child who had no home but a house, a child who had a father but was fatherless, a child who had a mother but was motherless with no relatives. I was on my own. It took people who were once in my shoes to understand me. My own siblings were really after themselves, none cared for me. It was like being in the midst of people, yet I had no people. It sucks really. I wouldn't want my children to experience these, a horrible experience. I think before anyone could be called a father or a mother, they need to undergo training on parenting. Is not all about birthing children and having them suffer in this world. Parenting is not all about paying bills while neglecting a child emotional needs, love, support, attention, friendship and others. There are a lot to it.
Albert: I am not ready, mother
Ma Gloria: Okay, I will get you a sweet angel, you marry her and make me a Grandmother soon, alright?
Albert: But mother, I don't wish to have children.
Ma Gloria: You what!
Exclaiming with all degree of furiousness and surprise.
Ma Gloria: You must be possessed by a wicked demon and tomorrow, we will meet a Pastor to cast out the demon from you and you will be totally free for marriage and in giving me my Grandchildren.
Albert: Silence!
Most people don't know this, marriage isn't for everyone, parenting isn't for everyone too. We can all be called fathers and mothers but not everyone knows how to take proper care of children. I know that is what the society expects from us but it isn't for everyone. The society expects a young girl to marry, do a glittering wedding that is the talk of town and give birth to children in a loving family. I know they are no perfect marriages, but most people will be horrible in it. It is really a huge task birthing and taking care of children. Most families and marriages are not rosy as they claim to be in public eyes. It is always some sort of staying in a marriage because of children and having to endure shit from a husband for a lifetime. Why enduring? Why staying for the children, rather than staying for the man who took you to the altar? You may say divorce and broken home is bad but staying in a marriage devoid of love, happiness, peace, joy, companionship and broken relationships in a home is the worst.
A lot of parents birth children, they cannot cater for, they can't give them love hence making them vulnerable and leaving them at the mercy of a total stranger. A child from a dysfunctional family or home will find it difficult to birth children without abusing them, except with the help of a therapist. Most children have gone through a lot and the last thing on their minds is to be a mother or a father. They won't be good at it and if forced, it makes matters worst. I remember when I needed love desperately, I would go from place to place looking for solace, happiness, friendship, love and a companion which I never got in my home, through my search for these, people took advantage of me, especially when they knew my parents didn't really care. People used the story I told them against me. I opened my heart to people but I wasn't really accepted. I was truthful, I was honest yet people never wanted to hear my truth. They never really cared. People were after the benefits they get from me rather than the pains I went through. That is why I made a write up once saying human beings are self-centered and selfish in nature. People who helped me were but a few. Just a few in the midst of many. I never owed anyone anything anyway. I didn't expect much from them too.
I gradually became a child who had no home but a house, a child who had a father but was fatherless, a child who had a mother but was motherless with no relatives. I was on my own. It took people who were once in my shoes to understand me. My own siblings were really after themselves, none cared for me. It was like being in the midst of people, yet I had no people. It sucks really. I wouldn't want my children to experience these, a horrible experience. I think before anyone could be called a father or a mother, they need to undergo training on parenting. Is not all about birthing children and having them suffer in this world. Parenting is not all about paying bills while neglecting a child emotional needs, love, support, attention, friendship and others. There are a lot to it.
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