The major thing that causes problems in a home is finance and if this is tackled, half of the problems in a home is solved. My father was the only one working in our home and that wasn't funny. Not in today's world. Since he was the only one working, and everyone were depending on him, he chased money and didn't give us love. Maybe to him love was all about paying bills and if you are able to receive a good education or went to a very expensive school, then you are really loved by your parents. This man paying all the bills was hell mehn, we saw hell. This is why when I see women fighting against patriarchy and the control of women, I do not stop them, I do not blame them. Most women have really suffered in the hands of terrible men. If I were a feminist, I would have gone extreme, maybe I would have been a radical feminist preaching against patriarchy and the control of women, I would have been very heartless and wicked to show the hell they made me go through but I chose not to destroy the marriage institution created by God which many have misinterpreted God and turned marriage into hell and a place of slavery, I chose not to because of people who still have good homes and for the people who told me they had good homes, let them enjoy their good homes. Besides, that wasn't the kind of life God wanted from me. I wanted God to make me happy, I wanted to be a happy human being and spend the rest of my life being happy.
Today, I tell parents to send their children to schools they can afford, don't get loans or use all your life savings paying your children's school fees, tuition fees or bills, get frustrated, get angry and transfer the frustrations and aggressions on children, making these children frustrated, unloved and suffering all their lives to pay for this. Affordability is the key. Don't send children to expensive schools because your friend's kids are there too. Cut your coat according to your cloth and pay for what you can afford. These local/public schools are underrated, I never knew how great the local schools were until I went into it. They produced great men and women. My primary/nursery and secondary schools were expensive, but my father took us there because that was the norms, all those people he was working with, their kids went to good and expensive schools and he never wanted to be different. Later on, I went to a Public University, the school that changed my life for good. My Father was always angry when we never lived up to his expectations because he believed he had spent a lot of money and he send us to expensive schools. He would complain and murmur everyday for us to concentrate and read our books. I never really experienced or get genuine love from him. Day after day, he complains of how he spent his money. These were the love songs we got from him and we were used to it. Parenting isn't for the violent, sadist or angry souls who believes that life is a competition.
Today, I tell parents to send their children to schools they can afford, don't get loans or use all your life savings paying your children's school fees, tuition fees or bills, get frustrated, get angry and transfer the frustrations and aggressions on children, making these children frustrated, unloved and suffering all their lives to pay for this. Affordability is the key. Don't send children to expensive schools because your friend's kids are there too. Cut your coat according to your cloth and pay for what you can afford. These local/public schools are underrated, I never knew how great the local schools were until I went into it. They produced great men and women. My primary/nursery and secondary schools were expensive, but my father took us there because that was the norms, all those people he was working with, their kids went to good and expensive schools and he never wanted to be different. Later on, I went to a Public University, the school that changed my life for good. My Father was always angry when we never lived up to his expectations because he believed he had spent a lot of money and he send us to expensive schools. He would complain and murmur everyday for us to concentrate and read our books. I never really experienced or get genuine love from him. Day after day, he complains of how he spent his money. These were the love songs we got from him and we were used to it. Parenting isn't for the violent, sadist or angry souls who believes that life is a competition.
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