A child can not hate his father without a reason. There is always a reason for the hate, abandonment, and redraws of love. Now the father might be a pastor, a good man with an angelic face, he may appear so good outside but seriously children don't hate without a reason. Get to hear from them first. They good man you are seeing might be abusive or a tiger in his home. Below are the reasons why children hate their fathers.
Abuses :
During their childhood, they have gone through series of abuses from the father. Abuses such as; physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Most fathers are abusers and they hardly change hence the hate from their children.
Lack of love and care :
A child who is not loved and cared for by the family or father will produce hate. He will hate his father for that. Children need love, care and support from the father. Fathers who are unloving and uncaring to their children hardly get love from the children.
Abandonment and lack of support :
A child won't love you if you abandoned him when he was a kid. They won't love you, if you abandoned them through out their childhood to surface when they are adult to claim them. Some children would just ignore you and believe you don't exist. Be there for your children, get their needs.
Support them emotionally, financially and otherwise. Protect and defend them. That is the work of a father and any father that fails to carry out his responsibilities will definitely be hated by his children.
A control freak father :
Once in a while, children desire to control everything about them and own their life. They want an identity, give them space. Your children will not love you if you are always restricting them or limiting them from exploring their world or living their dreams and discovering their purpose on earth. No child would love a father that cages them and keep them all alone at home when their mate are doing something meaningful for their life's. No child loves a harsh and hard father.
I have always hated my father for not participating in my school programmes and not being so perfect as he had always forced us to be.
I have hated my father for treating my mother badly. A woman who suffered and toiled with him when he had no money only for him to turn her into a slave when he had so much money. He wasn't loyal. People outside enjoyed his money, people who never suffered for him. He never gave my mother money to take care of herself or buy some good dresses. This made people disregard her. He made people disregard my mother. Apart from his abusive lifestyle, I hate him too for this.
When parents are managing and enduring marriage because of the children. No love and affection in the home.
In conclusion, love your children more, stop being abusive it affects children a lot even to their adult stage. Give them space, let them have fun and do what they desire. They will make mistakes and learn from it. Never force children to do your bindings all the time. Get to hear their. Don't stop them from having fun. Be supportive, be there for them. Give them a listening ear, play along with them participate in their school programme, it gives them joy. No child hates the father for no reason, there is a reason for that. Now be a real father!
Abuses :
During their childhood, they have gone through series of abuses from the father. Abuses such as; physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Most fathers are abusers and they hardly change hence the hate from their children.
Lack of love and care :
A child who is not loved and cared for by the family or father will produce hate. He will hate his father for that. Children need love, care and support from the father. Fathers who are unloving and uncaring to their children hardly get love from the children.
Abandonment and lack of support :
A child won't love you if you abandoned him when he was a kid. They won't love you, if you abandoned them through out their childhood to surface when they are adult to claim them. Some children would just ignore you and believe you don't exist. Be there for your children, get their needs.
Support them emotionally, financially and otherwise. Protect and defend them. That is the work of a father and any father that fails to carry out his responsibilities will definitely be hated by his children.
A control freak father :
Once in a while, children desire to control everything about them and own their life. They want an identity, give them space. Your children will not love you if you are always restricting them or limiting them from exploring their world or living their dreams and discovering their purpose on earth. No child would love a father that cages them and keep them all alone at home when their mate are doing something meaningful for their life's. No child loves a harsh and hard father.
I have always hated my father for not participating in my school programmes and not being so perfect as he had always forced us to be.
I have hated my father for treating my mother badly. A woman who suffered and toiled with him when he had no money only for him to turn her into a slave when he had so much money. He wasn't loyal. People outside enjoyed his money, people who never suffered for him. He never gave my mother money to take care of herself or buy some good dresses. This made people disregard her. He made people disregard my mother. Apart from his abusive lifestyle, I hate him too for this.
When parents are managing and enduring marriage because of the children. No love and affection in the home.
In conclusion, love your children more, stop being abusive it affects children a lot even to their adult stage. Give them space, let them have fun and do what they desire. They will make mistakes and learn from it. Never force children to do your bindings all the time. Get to hear their. Don't stop them from having fun. Be supportive, be there for them. Give them a listening ear, play along with them participate in their school programme, it gives them joy. No child hates the father for no reason, there is a reason for that. Now be a real father!
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