Don't stop children from playing and having a lovely and free childhood. Mine, I played mostly in school and when I am back from school, I watched television. My play and watching television was restricted at home. Then, I hardly watched television or film when he was around. I remember sitting comfortably in the parlour to watch a TV show once, he came back from work, yelled at us and off the television set. It got to a point that when he came back from work, everyone runs to their room. It was more like a lion coming out from an evil forest. Friends don't visit, he will drive them away. He will urge us to read our books and will often compare us with his colleague's children who takes first in class. He did not even care about our emotional state, or about having fun. I was read, read and read your books.
Now, most fathers are like the character, Eugene in Chimamanda's Purple Hibiscus while some mothers play the role of Beatrice. They want the best for their children and at the same time ruin their children's lives. I wouldn't say let children be loose and stubborn, that is not what I mean. I mean, you shouldn't discipline or cage children that the world becomes a small place for them to live when they leave their cages. They often gets timid and run away to their cages.
It's okay to discipline a child, sit them down and talk to them in a loving and respectable way not being a bully, being abusive just to get them do what you want. I don't like some parenting styles. It pisses me off when a child feels like a stranger in his/her home. A child that wants to spoil, will still spoil. I have heard of a girl that got pregnant for her father's gate man because her father don't allow her go out. Caging a child isn't the best, they can never confide in their parents or anyone that does such to them.
Now, most fathers are like the character, Eugene in Chimamanda's Purple Hibiscus while some mothers play the role of Beatrice. They want the best for their children and at the same time ruin their children's lives. I wouldn't say let children be loose and stubborn, that is not what I mean. I mean, you shouldn't discipline or cage children that the world becomes a small place for them to live when they leave their cages. They often gets timid and run away to their cages.
It's okay to discipline a child, sit them down and talk to them in a loving and respectable way not being a bully, being abusive just to get them do what you want. I don't like some parenting styles. It pisses me off when a child feels like a stranger in his/her home. A child that wants to spoil, will still spoil. I have heard of a girl that got pregnant for her father's gate man because her father don't allow her go out. Caging a child isn't the best, they can never confide in their parents or anyone that does such to them.
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