Bethy-Creative Stories: Overrated Sex and Virginity

Sex is a natural act created by God to man. He made us male and female with sexual organs inorder to perform perfectly. To some, sex is only for the married and is seen as an act of fornication when singles indulge in this act. In most traditions and culture, sex is sacred and as such a taboo word to be heard in public. Gone are those days, sex was used as a tool to shame a woman. Today, women are not ashame of their sexuality. On my way going back home one day, I met a group of guys discussing. I pushed my ears forward to hear the gist, behold their gist was about the numbers of girls they have slept with and they ones they are yet to sleep with. It marvelled me how such trash will be coming out from the mouth of sensible humans. I got pissed off, so I left them. Read more on;
Sex and Psychology

Gone are those days where women lay as log of wood on the bed. Today, it is a 'give' and 'take' act, not the master and his slave girl thingy. They have sex and ask for more especially this era where every woman have access to phone and the internet, they watch adult movies and read romantic magazines just to learn the act. In Africa, most women can't even express themselves sexually because of the fear of being tag 'a harlot '. A female child will be asked to remain a virgin until marriage while the men sleeps around, nobody cautions them.

It is seriously not easy, trust me. In the early hours of the morning when one feels so horny and starts having sexual thought, it takes the grace of God to overcome the urge. Then, I wonder how the Nuns, Reverend Fathers and Sisters cope. Abstaining from sex and dedicating their life to God. Living life without sex...hmmm sounding impossible though 😏.

However, if sex outside marriage is a sin, then why did God create sexual feelings for everyone? I am not questioning God but He would have at least made the feelings for those married stronger than the singles because the married have the license to have sex.

Medically, sex is known to reduce stress, anxiety, depression, keeps one in a happy mood etc. And singles will be missing out because it is a sin? Does it mean that if sex was the only survival prescription to a sick Nun, Reverend Fathers and Sisters, that they would choose to die rather than have sex? Extreme fanatist and over religious people makes others belief that sex is bad, even after being married. This is why women find it difficult to let their husbands know how worst they are in love making. They pretend to enjoy every bit of the bad sex. During my puberty days, my mother would tell us drawing our ears, " Never allow a man touch you, you will be pregnant the day he touches you. " Her words scared us. This wasn't funny then. I became afraid of going close to a man neither having eye contact with him. Imagine! Each time I remember those moment, I laugh over it.

Also, religion places more value on virginity rather than quality. This whole virginity seems special as if it is a guarantee to a happy marriage. A man will meet a girl he wants to marry instead of getting to know the girl and her family. The first question he ask is usually, " Are you a virgin? " Actually being a virgin is a good one, something to be treasured but such question disorganizes me. It makes me feel as though one is coming for my body rather than the qualities I possess. Anyways, virginity is overrated, sex is overrated. Suit yourself.. either abstain or have one partner. This is why most times I dislike relationship because it makes a girl look like a coded prostitute, moving from one man to another, from one relationship to another and from one dick to another.Which ever way, a dick is involved and money is involved, so what is the difference?